Online couples therapy gives you a shared space to understand what happens between you. We work with the feelings, needs and reactions behind the argument, while staying close to the situations you face in daily life.
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I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and couples therapist in practice since 2004. TherapyMark offers online sessions in English for couples seeking help with conflict, distance and trust.
Before arranging a session, tell me where each of you is based and your time zones. We check whether online work together is suitable and agree the length, fee and video arrangements. You can sit together or discuss joining from separate locations.
Start with a brief enquiry. You do not need to wait until you agree about everything before asking for help.
These reviews describe clients’ experiences of working with me. They come from my wider practice and do not all relate to online sessions. Each person’s experience is their own, and a review does not promise a particular outcome.
I am Mark Colclough, MA. I have practised since 2004 and offer online psychotherapy and couples therapy in English.
My training brings together your emotions, your thoughts and your relationships. My deep passion is the moment when what happens between you finally makes sense, to each of you and to each other. I have lived and worked in nine countries, so I know something of life across languages, cultures and borders.
Read about my background, or explore online psychotherapy and online couples therapy.
I meet regularly with experienced psychotherapists to reflect on my work, question my understanding and develop my skills. Supervision is part of the professional care I bring to individual and couples work, including online sessions.
My focus is thoughtful practice, integrity and responsibility.
You are welcome to ask about the kind of support you need.
Tell me where you are based and your time zone. We can then consider whether online sessions together are suitable.
You can care about each other and still feel alone in the relationship.
A move, a different culture or life in two countries can add pressure to a familiar pattern. One of you pushes for a response. The other tries to create breathing room. Both feel misunderstood, and another attempt to connect turns into an argument.
We begin with what you each experience, rather than deciding who has the better account. An online session gives us somewhere to slow down and see the sequence together.
The topic may change, but the feeling is familiar. You feel dismissed; your partner feels criticised. We follow the moment where an ordinary exchange becomes a struggle and look at what each of you needed before you reacted.
Wanting to talk now and needing a pause can both make sense. Trouble starts when the pause feels like abandonment, or the request to talk feels impossible to escape. We work on asking clearly and pausing in a way that leaves a route back to contact.
Living apart can make unanswered messages or a quiet evening feel larger than they are. We explore the worries underneath and agree clearer ways to communicate. Reassurance matters, but it should not require either of you to give up your boundaries.
Sometimes closeness feels both wanted and difficult. You may ask for contact and then feel exposed when it arrives. We make room for both responses so your partner has less to guess, and you can speak about what is happening as it happens.
Silence can mean that a person has reached their limit, even when the other experiences it as rejection. I help you slow the exchange down. Online, we also agree how to pause and reconnect, so a closed laptop does not become the end of the conversation.
If keeping the peace has become your main job, you may lose sight of what you want. We work on expressing a need without making it an accusation. Both people need room to say yes, no and something more complicated.
If this feels familiar, send me a short message about the support you are looking for and where you are both based.
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Tell me briefly what kind of support you are looking for.
Include your country and time zone so we can discuss whether online work together is possible and find a suitable time.
You do not need to explain your whole story in your first message.
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A useful conversation should help you when the session ends too.
Our work is emotions-focused. We pay attention to what you feel, how you protect yourself and what your partner hears. I help you put the underlying request into words that can be understood and answered.
We do not need to cover every disagreement at once. A clear example often tells us more than a long list of faults.
We take a situation you both remember and follow the order of events. What did you hear? What did you feel? What did you do next? That sequence helps us understand why each response made sense to you and became painful for your partner.
We look for the first signs: a tone of voice, an urgent question or the feeling that you must defend yourself. Naming the start of the loop gives you a chance to respond sooner, before either person has reached their limit.
I help keep the pace manageable so feelings can be heard without taking over the whole exchange. A pause is useful when it supports returning to the conversation. We agree what that means for you, including how to handle it during a video session.
We move from broad statements to a specific situation and a clear request. Instead of asking your partner to prove they care, you can say what action would help you feel included or supported. Then we make space for an honest response.
Yes. You do not have to hide doubt to begin couples work. We examine what each of you wants and whether there is a shared basis for continuing. Therapy does not promise to preserve the relationship at any cost.
We look for changes you can recognise: speaking sooner, listening with less defence, making clearer requests and repairing contact after a difficult exchange. We review what remains hard and adjust the work rather than assuming that attending sessions is enough.
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The first step is a clear agreement about how we will meet.
Tell me your country, time zone and whether you plan to join from the same room. Before confirming an appointment, we discuss suitability, privacy, session length and cost. You receive the agreed video arrangements directly.
A short account of why you are seeking help is enough. Tell me what each of you hopes might change, if you already know. Leave detailed health information out of the enquiry form; we can discuss sensitive material in an agreed setting.
You can ask for an individual conversation about your experience of the relationship. That gives you space to consider your wishes, boundaries and contribution. It does not replace your partner’s voice or turn individual therapy into joint couples work.
Both people need some willingness to examine their own experience and actions. You do not have to agree or find speaking equally easy. But the work cannot depend entirely on proving that the other person must change.
We agree times that are workable for everyone and check the date as well as the hour. My scheduling base is Europe/Copenhagen. Daylight-saving changes can happen on different dates, so use the time zone stated in your confirmation.
No package is assumed when you enquire. If an ongoing arrangement is offered, we agree the price, expiry and cancellation conditions before purchase. Do not use package information from one of my other websites as the terms for this online service.
We review what you wanted from the work and whether you can handle more of it yourselves. Ending may mean that your relationship has improved, or that you have reached a clearer decision. We discuss an ending rather than setting a fixed outcome in advance.
We meet by video and work with a specific situation or concern. I help both of you speak and listen, notice your pattern and explore the feelings underneath it. The aim is understanding you can use, rather than a verdict on who is right.
You can ask about that arrangement. Each person needs a private space, reliable sound and enough freedom to speak. We discuss whether separate locations support the work and how to manage pauses or a connection problem.
Yes, you can enquire about this. We consider the effect of what happened, responsibility and what rebuilding trust would require. I do not promise reconciliation or ask the hurt person to move on before their experience has been heard.
You can seek individual support for your own decisions and boundaries. Therapy cannot make your partner participate or control their choices. We are clear about whether we are doing individual or joint work.
No. We need to consider safety, privacy, your location and whether video is a workable setting. Tell me if either person feels unable to speak freely. An online service is not a crisis response, and some situations need a different kind of support.
Use a device with a camera and clear audio, a stable connection and a private room. Test your setup beforehand. If you share a room, place the camera so I can see and hear both of you. Agree not to record the session without everyone’s consent.
I can discuss a recommendation after learning about your situation. There is no reliable session count for every couple. We review the work together, including what you are able to change between meetings.
Yes. TherapyMark’s sessions are in English. My own life across countries informs the work, but I do not assume that cultural background explains everything. We explore what each of you means and the expectations you bring.
We agree the fee, currency and reserved length before you confirm an appointment. Online rates are not yet published for this site. See the prices page and ask me for a current quote.
Use the session request page or email [email protected]. Include where both of you are based and your time zones. A request becomes an appointment only when the arrangements are confirmed.
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I want therapy to help you understand your experience and make choices you can use in everyday life. We pay attention to feelings, needs and the responses that happen before you have time to think.
Our online room should offer enough trust and honesty to explore what is difficult. I bring attention and professional judgement. You bring your experience, questions and the right to say when something does not fit.
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