In this short video, I explain how I plan a fly-in stay of several days at my practice, and how we keep the work alive by video once you fly home.
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Fly-in psychotherapy in Copenhagen helps you do concentrated, in-person work when you live far away and want to travel for it. You come to my practice in central Copenhagen for a planned stay of several days, and we hold a series of 1-hour sessions in English, paced around your arrival and your capacity.
I help you plan the visit with a clear aim, work closely while you are here and decide afterwards how to continue, often by video between visits. It sits within psychotherapy for people living abroad and my online psychotherapy. If a shorter trip suits you, see weekend psychotherapy in Copenhagen.
You can book a free 30-minute call to plan your visit, book your sessions, read my client policy or send me your travel dates.
Fly-in psychotherapy in Copenhagen is for English-speaking adults who live far from Copenhagen and choose to travel there for several days of therapy in person. You want time, privacy and a room of your own with a therapist, away from your usual surroundings, and a plan for continuing afterwards.
A fly-in stay is a planned, in-person format that involves real travel. Where one of the lines below sounds more like you, follow its link instead.
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These reviews describe clients’ experiences of working with me. They come from my wider practice and do not all relate to online sessions. Each person’s experience is their own, and a review does not promise a particular outcome.
“Working with people in many time zones, I have learned that the long flight itself does part of the work. Choosing to travel for therapy is a statement: this matters enough to stop everything else. Where I disagree is with the hope that a few days in person will settle everything in one go. Underneath, one quiet question is often ‘If I let myself need this, will it still be there when I fly home?’ Another, more guarded, says ‘Let me handle the rest on my own once I have what I came for.’ A good fly-in stay respects both. It gives you real contact in the room, and it sends you home with a plan rather than a promise.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA. I have practised since 2004 and offer online psychotherapy and couples therapy in English.
My training brings together your emotions, your thoughts and your relationships. My deep passion is the moment when what happens between you finally makes sense, to each of you and to each other. I have lived and worked in nine countries, so I know something of life across languages, cultures and borders.
Read about my background, or explore online psychotherapy and online couples therapy.
I meet regularly with experienced psychotherapists to reflect on my work, question my understanding and develop my skills. Supervision is part of the professional care I bring to individual and couples work, including online sessions.
My focus is thoughtful practice, integrity and responsibility.
You are welcome to ask about the kind of support you need.
Tell me where you are based and your time zone. We can then consider whether online sessions together are suitable.
Ali is 52, a British-Pakistani finance director living in Singapore. He has worked abroad for 20 years and moves easily between boardrooms, yet since his son left for university he has felt hollow and oddly homesick for a place he cannot name. The expat circle is small, and he does not want to be seen at a local practice. He already flies to Frankfurt every quarter.
I would suggest adding 3 days in Copenhagen to his next trip, with the first session the afternoon after he lands. In that first session we would look at what the empty house has stirred up, and Ali would probably find that the homesickness is older than the posting, reaching back to the many moves of his own childhood.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
You have carried something across several countries, and squeezing it into a weekly call has never been enough.
There is no correct moment and no qualifying reason for starting therapy. A sense that something is not right, that life abroad has become heavy or that your relationships are not what you want is enough. You need no diagnosis and no crisis. In 22 years of practice I have learned to recognise when a pattern needs protected time in the room, and when it is better served by steady work at home.
In sessions I usually begin by locating the heart of the difficulty, then what keeps it alive and what has to change. Use the 6 questions below to judge whether a fly-in stay is the right step.
If so, the delay is telling you something. Your calendar is shaped by board meetings, school terms and flights home, and therapy keeps sliding to next quarter. Meanwhile the tiredness, the irritability or the quiet sadness keeps growing.
I would look at whether this is a busy year or a long habit of putting yourself last. A planned stay in Copenhagen gives the work time that nothing can take back. Book a session with me and we can choose dates around your existing travel.
Both wishes can sit side by side. You want a real relationship with a therapist, in person, where you can say everything. You also want privacy, especially in a small expat world where people talk and reputations matter.
I see the need for discretion as reasonable, not as hiding. Travelling to Copenhagen can meet both needs at once. In our sessions I help you notice what each wish protects, so that discretion does not quietly become a habit of never letting anyone in.
Distance makes every gap feel bigger. Your parents sound older on each call, old friends stop asking, and your children seem to live in a culture you only half share. You check for signs that you still matter, and the relief never lasts long.
Your wish to belong and be remembered is entirely legitimate. I help you calm the fear that fires before there is any real sign of loss, and find ways to ask directly for the contact you need. Over several days we can give that fear proper attention.
Many people who live far from where they grew up move between these 2 states. In a hotel room you feel lonely and long for someone. When a friend or partner reaches out, you feel the urge to keep it light, or to cancel.
I help you slow this pattern down and find the moment longing turns into retreat. Often it is a fear of depending on someone who might leave. I understand the protective logic, and I will also ask you to look at what it costs the people trying to reach you.
Self-reliance has served you well. It carried you through new countries, new languages and demanding jobs. But when feelings run high, you become efficient, distant or busy, and those close to you may feel they cannot reach you.
My view is that independence is valuable and does not need to be given up. Together we look at what keeping your distance shields you from, so you can remain in contact without being swamped. You learn to state a limit early, before withdrawing becomes the only option.
Living in several cultures can leave you fluent everywhere and at home nowhere. You may present differently in each country and sometimes wonder which version is the real one. That is not a sign of damage. It is the cost of adapting well.
Over several days we can go into this properly, including the family history you brought with you. I will offer direction and honest challenge, but I will not tell you who to be. The goal is a clearer sense of what matters to you and what kind of life fits.
If this fits, book a free call to plan your travel dates, or book your sessions directly if you already know when you can come.
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Understanding yourself during a stay in Copenhagen matters, but the real test is how you live when you land back home.
A fly-in stay with me will help you understand what is happening, recognise the patterns that sustain it and take concrete changes home with you. Insight that stays in Copenhagen is not enough, so I plan each stay with your return in mind.
In 22 years of practice I have found that concentrated work in person needs an active therapist. I will guide, name what I see and challenge where it helps, rather than only listen. These 6 questions describe what we work towards.
Related reading: Is online therapy as good as seeing someone in person? and Why can’t I grieve when I live so far from home?.
Because our time is limited, I help you separate the main difficulty from its symptoms and side effects early. The sleeplessness, the restlessness or the drinking a little more than you meant are real, but they are often results. Under them lie feelings, beliefs and old ways of protecting yourself.
I tell you clearly what I think is going on and what needs attention first, and I question explanations that keep you stuck. When you are ready, book a session with me and tell me briefly what you want to bring.
By learning its early signals. Most reactions follow a sequence: a heaviness in the chest, a familiar thought about being alone, an urge to work late or reach for a drink. Catching the first step gives you a moment to choose differently.
Over several days we can map that sequence in detail one day and practise a new response the next. Recognition is only the first step. I help you rehearse until the new response is ready for the first difficult evening after you land.
Staying steady does not mean pushing feelings away or looking composed. It means remaining present enough to understand what is going on and decide how to respond. Strong feelings may rise during a stay, and that is part of the work.
I watch for strain and adjust the pace, and the breaks between sessions matter. You will learn simple ways to notice your body’s signals sooner. Practising them for a few minutes each day once you are home is your part.
Clear communication starts with knowing what you feel and what belongs to you. Long distance and busy lives make it tempting to keep calls pleasant and save the real topics for a visit that never quite happens.
I help you find words that are honest and proportionate. I challenge you when you stay silent to keep the peace, and when you expect others to work out what you need. During your stay we can prepare a conversation to have after you fly home.
Clarity comes when you separate fear, duty and other people’s wishes from what you know and value. A stay away from your usual life often helps with that.
I help you weigh each option and what it would require of you, from schooling to ageing parents. I will give my honest professional view and point out avoidance, but the decision remains yours. You leave knowing your own mind better, even if you need time to act.
Change has to show up in your ordinary weeks: how you protect time for yourself, how you stay close to people far away and how you deal with conflict. You may need new routines, firmer limits at work or more honest conversations with family.
We work out together which habits deserve to travel on with you and which can be left behind. Your adaptability and independence are strengths. The goal is a life in which your choices answer to your values, not only to your career or other people’s expectations.
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You do not need a diagnosis, a complete history or the right words before you land. We begin with what is pressing now.
Before you travel, we agree what the stay is for. Once you are here, I listen closely, help you put the core difficulty into words and set a course for the days ahead. You do not need to explain your whole life first.
A fly-in stay is often the start of longer work. Afterwards, online psychotherapy lets us continue my structured individual work by video, wherever you live. If the difficulty lies in your relationship and your partner is willing, online couples therapy offers long-term relational development and healing. Because a stay always involves several sessions, a therapy bundle gives you savings and the safety of a plan agreed before you travel.
I ask what has brought you to Copenhagen, what feels hardest now, what you have tried and what you hope will change. We also check how you are after the journey and confirm the plan for the coming days.
By the end you will have my first understanding and a direction for the following sessions. You can decide whether my approach feels useful. If you would like to talk before booking flights, book a free 30-minute call.
Individual work fits when the focus is your emotions, history, decisions or way of coping abroad. We can look at your relationships in depth without anyone else being present.
I bring continuity and honest challenge from one session to the next during your stay. For regular work afterwards, online psychotherapy describes my structured individual work by video.
Couples therapy is more useful when the relationship itself needs sustained work. If the same conflict returns, if trust has been broken or if one of you reaches out while the other withdraws, both of you usually need to take part.
In couples work I help you see the cycle between you and develop safer ways of relating. Online couples therapy is long-term relational development and healing, and it works well for couples who live apart or travel a lot.
That depends on your aim, your energy after the journey and how much you can absorb. Many people do 2 sessions a day, others 3 with longer breaks.
I suggest a plan in advance and keep it flexible. If jet lag or emotion makes the pace unhelpful, we slow down. Between visits we can continue by video, weekly or fortnightly, in your time zone.
A bundle makes sense when the work clearly needs several sessions and you want continuity without deciding after each one. A fly-in stay always involves several, so it usually does.
Paying for your stay as a bundle reduces the cost per session and settles the plan before you book flights. See therapy discounts and bundles, and I will help you choose the right size.
The work is done when you have more clarity and choice, and the original difficulty has shifted enough for you to manage without the same support. Sometimes one stay is enough. Sometimes it opens work that continues by video.
At the close of every stay I look honestly at progress with you, and I do not keep therapy going for its own sake. We may plan another stay, move to video sessions or stop. Returning later with a new question is part of a full life, not a failure.
Wondering whether a fly-in stay is the right way to begin? Here is how it compares with the closest alternatives.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Fly-in psychotherapy in Copenhagen (this page) | You live far away and want several days of work in person. | Several 1-hour sessions over a planned stay |
| Weekend psychotherapy in Copenhagen | You live within reach and a weekend in person is enough. | Sessions across a Saturday and Sunday |
| Back-to-back psychotherapy, living abroad | You want concentrated work without travelling. | A block of 1-hour video sessions |
| Psychotherapy for people living abroad | A regular hour fits your life and you want steady work over months. | Weekly or fortnightly video sessions |
It is individual psychotherapy in person, in English, for people who travel to Copenhagen specifically for therapy. Over a planned stay of several days, we hold a series of 1-hour sessions at my practice in central Copenhagen.
I plan each stay around a clear aim and your capacity, and many people continue by video afterwards. It belongs to psychotherapy for people living abroad.
It is worth considering when something has needed attention for a long time, when privacy at home is hard to find, or when you want to start in person before continuing online.
I will look honestly at whether a stay in Copenhagen gives the work what it needs. If video sessions or a weekend would serve you as well, I will say so.
Often, yes, though not as a quick fix. A stay can give you a clear understanding of your pattern and a first change to take home. Deeper work usually continues afterwards.
In my clinical experience, people who travel for therapy arrive with unusual focus. Having made the journey, they tend to waste little time, and that commitment shapes what becomes possible.
Then we adapt the plan. I schedule the first session after you have had some rest and keep breaks between sessions throughout your stay.
If a day is too much, I shorten it or change the focus. Being tired is not a failure, and the stay should help you rather than test your endurance.
Many people move between seeking closeness and protecting their distance. Both are attempts to feel safe, shaped by how you learned to cope, often long before you moved abroad.
I help you see which moves you make under pressure, what each protects and what it costs others. Then we practise steadier alternatives, like asking clearly for support and taking space without vanishing.
Allow a rest day after a long flight if you can, keep the evenings free and avoid booking work meetings in the middle of the stay. Choose somewhere quiet to stay, since rest between sessions is part of the work.
You do not need to prepare anything else. If you want to discuss dates and pacing, book a free 30-minute call first, or book your sessions directly.
Some people come once and find that enough. Others return every few months, with video sessions in between to keep the thread.
I give you an honest recommendation at the end of each stay, drawing on 22 years of practice, and we review it together. Nothing continues simply out of habit.
Yes, and many people do. Video sessions between visits keep the work going at a time that fits your time zone, wherever you are.
For video you need a private room, headphones, a stable connection and a laptop or tablet. If home is busy, a closed office or a parked car can work. The calendar shows times in your local time zone, and you can sort the details on a free call.
Individual psychotherapy is booked as 1-hour sessions with 50 minutes of therapy, so a stay is a set of these sessions. Current fees in US dollars are listed on my prices page. Flights and accommodation are yours to arrange.
A therapy bundle saves you 10 per cent and gives the stay a plan agreed in advance. The options are on therapy discounts and bundles.
Book your sessions in the calendar, or request a free 30-minute call to plan the dates with me first.
If the days you need are not showing, contact me with your travel window. If something has happened that cannot wait for a planned trip, I hold some room for acute cases, described on acute psychotherapy, living abroad. Send me your dates, and we will plan your stay.
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I want therapy to help you understand your experience and make choices you can use in everyday life. We pay attention to feelings, needs and the responses that happen before you have time to think.
Our online room should offer enough trust and honesty to explore what is difficult. I bring attention and professional judgement. You bring your experience, questions and the right to say when something does not fit.
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