In this short video, I explain why an affair can hit harder when you live abroad, and how we work through it online.
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Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, is online couples therapy, in English, for couples recovering from an affair far from home. Abroad, the hurt partner may have no family nearby, few friends of their own and a life that was built around the relationship. We meet by video in your time zone, steady the hurt, understand what happened and decide together what comes next.
It combines online couples therapy after infidelity with my work for couples living abroad. If only one of you will take part, infidelity therapy alone, living abroad is for you.
You can ask for a free 30-minute call, book a session, read my client policy or write to me.
This page is for couples living abroad, anywhere, who are dealing with an affair and want to understand it and decide their future together. Both of you take part, by video.
This page is for couples abroad working through an affair together. If another line fits better, follow its link.
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These reviews describe clients’ experiences of working with me. They come from my wider practice and do not all relate to online sessions. Each person’s experience is their own, and a review does not promise a particular outcome.
“Having lived and worked in nine countries myself, I know how much a life abroad can rest on one relationship. When that relationship is betrayed, the hurt partner does not only lose trust. They may lose their sense of why they are in that country at all. The partner who strayed often carries their own story of loneliness or pressure that nobody heard. Neither story cancels the other. When both are told honestly, a couple can decide, freely and fairly, whether to rebuild, and where.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA. I have practised since 2004 and offer online psychotherapy and couples therapy in English.
My training brings together your emotions, your thoughts and your relationships. My deep passion is the moment when what happens between you finally makes sense, to each of you and to each other. I have lived and worked in nine countries, so I know something of life across languages, cultures and borders.
Read about my background, or explore online psychotherapy and online couples therapy.
I meet regularly with experienced psychotherapists to reflect on my work, question my understanding and develop my skills. Supervision is part of the professional care I bring to individual and couples work, including online sessions.
My focus is thoughtful practice, integrity and responsibility.
You are welcome to ask about the kind of support you need.
Tell me where you are based and your time zone. We can then consider whether online sessions together are suitable.
Lars is Danish and works on rotation in the Gulf. His wife, Camila, moved from Brazil to be with him and now lives in Doha with their two children. On a long rotation, Lars began an affair with a colleague. When Camila found out, she had no family nearby, few friends of her own and no idea whether she wanted to stay in the country, let alone the marriage.
In our online sessions, often from two places, we steady the first weeks. Then we look at how far apart their lives had drifted. Lars takes responsibility without excuses, and Camila speaks about how alone she has felt for years. Slowly they start to decide what kind of life, and which country, could work for them.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
An affair shakes any relationship. Far from home, it can shake the whole life you built around it.
When you live abroad, the partner who was betrayed may also be the one who moved, gave up a career or depends on the other for a visa or a social life. That makes the hurt deeper and the choices harder.
Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, gives you a structured space to face it, with someone outside both your circles.
Friends abroad are often shared, and family is a long flight away. The hurt partner may carry the news with no one to tell.
Our sessions become one place where it can be said in full.
Isolation does not excuse an affair, but it can be part of the story. One partner may have felt invisible in the new life, or the other may have felt the weight of everything resting on them.
We look at it honestly, without blame and without excuses.
Postings, rotations and business trips put many couples abroad apart for weeks at a time. Distance can make secrets easier to keep.
We look at what the distance did to the relationship, and what would need to change.
If the hurt partner followed the other abroad, they may feel stuck: unable to leave easily, unable to stay comfortably.
We name that power imbalance, so it can be part of any fair decision.
Both of you may want to try, yet the same questions come back night after night.
We give those questions a safe place, so they can be answered rather than endlessly repeated.
Rebuilding may mean staying where you are. It may mean moving on together, or apart. We look at every option without pushing any of them.
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Tell me briefly what kind of support you are looking for.
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Recovery after an affair is possible. It needs honesty, time and a clear process.
Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, works in stages: first steadying the hurt, then understanding how the affair happened, and finally deciding together whether and how to rebuild.
We look at the relationship before the affair, the life abroad around it and the choices made inside it. Understanding is not the same as excusing.
Yes. I help you set limits on when and how the questions are asked, so the hurt partner gets real answers and neither of you is worn down.
Real responsibility means answering honestly, without defending or minimising, and showing it over time. We practise that in our sessions.
Trust grows back slowly, through repeated honesty and kept promises. We agree what that will look like in your daily life, including when one of you travels.
We look at the practical and emotional sides of every option, including the country question, so neither of you feels the choice was forced.
A rebuilt relationship is not the old one patched up. It is a new one, with more honesty and a fairer balance between you.
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You do not need to know yet whether you will stay together. We start with the hurt.
In the first sessions of infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, I hear from both of you, steady the situation and agree how we will work. If another kind of help would suit you better, I will tell you.
You join together for two hours, by video. We look at what has come out, how each of you is coping and what you both need right now.
Sometimes, yes. A single individual session each can help, especially early on. I keep it transparent, so it never becomes a way of keeping secrets.
It varies. Many couples need several months of regular sessions. We review progress together as we go.
Often every one to two weeks at first, then with longer gaps. We plan around travel, and you can join from two places if one of you is away.
Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, usually takes several sessions, so a bundle often fits. It fixes a plan and lowers the price per session. The bundle cards further down show the options.
The questions come less often, the hurt partner feels safer and you can talk about the future again. Then we decide together what comes next.
Not sure infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, is your page? These are the closest options.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad (this page) | You live abroad and are working through an affair together. | 2-hour sessions every one to two weeks |
| Infidelity therapy alone, living abroad | Only one of you will take part. | 1-hour sessions on your own |
| Online couples therapy after infidelity | Living abroad is not part of it. | 2-hour sessions |
| Acute online couples therapy | You found out in the last few days. | A first session as soon as I can offer one |
Infidelity couples therapy, living abroad, is online couples therapy, in English, for couples recovering from an affair outside their home countries. It looks at the affair, the relationship and how life abroad shapes both.
Abroad, the hurt partner may depend on the other for home, friends or the right to stay. That makes the betrayal deeper and the choices harder, so we take it into account.
Yes. Affairs within the new country can make the hurt partner feel doubly a stranger. We work with that directly.
That question often comes up after an affair abroad. We look at it fairly, from both sides, without forcing an answer.
No. That decision is yours. I help you reach it with clear eyes.
Yes. I see every couple on this site in English, and most couples abroad use it together already.
Couples work needs the affair to be over. If it is still going on, we talk first about what that means and what each of you needs.
In the first days, acute online couples therapy may help you steady things first. We can move on to recovery work afterwards.
Sessions are 2-hour online couples sessions. My prices page shows the fee in US dollars, and a bundle paid in advance costs 10 per cent less.
Choose a session time, shown in your own time zone, or ask for a free 30-minute call if you would like to talk first.
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I want therapy to help you understand your experience and make choices you can use in everyday life. We pay attention to feelings, needs and the responses that happen before you have time to think.
Our online room should offer enough trust and honesty to explore what is difficult. I bring attention and professional judgement. You bring your experience, questions and the right to say when something does not fit.
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